Showing posts with label motivate. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motivate. Show all posts

1.27.2017

27 January

Casual Friday: Lace-Up Sweaters

Happy Friday everyone!

It's been a windy one this week in PA. The leaves are blowing, my hair is flying, and I'm packing on the layers to battle the piercing wind. I needed something cozy, practically impenetrable, and obviously, stylish to get me through Friday.

In comes this  lace up sweater from INC International Concepts. I scored this by way of a free clothing subscription trial through Gwynnie Bee. Staying stylish on a budget is getting easier and easier! Basically, you search through loads of dresses, pants, and sweaters for what you like best, they send it to your house, and you can wear it as often as you like, send it back (or not), and repeat! This trial has been awesome because it's introduced me to a few plus size brands I'm not familiar with. including INC International Concepts, who blessed me with this awesome sweater.

This stretch knit top features a scoop neck, with easy slip on (the lace-up design is just a chic bonus). I've been going crazy about the lace up. crochet features on designs lately, and this one was just up my alley.






For all of my plus size divas, sizes 10-32, be sure to check out Gwynnie Bee for your closet needs. They do not disappoint, and what's better; there's no commitment!

Have a blessed weekend everyone!

Faithfully,
Brieana

6.08.2016

08 June

Someone Hurt my Feelings Today....



I don't classify myself as a particularly emotional person. I cry during typical occasions (weddings, funerals, Grey's Antatomy episodes, etc.) But sometimes... things will hit me, or dare I say, rub me the wrong way. So in a moment of weakness, I vent to someone for a good 10 or 15 minutes, I go to the gym for an hour to release the frustrations, and I move on. Nowadays, I've begun to take that hour and 15 minutes to pray, meditate, and "break bread" with God. I assure you that the latter works more effectively. 

Being offended is a direct result of our ego feelings that something has been taken from us, or that we have been deprived of some unspoken respect or kindness from someone else. Being offended usually means that you assume certain motives on the part of the offender, and react to what happened as something that could have and should have been prevented.


The Bible talks about the story of Cain and Abel and Cain becoming offended that his brother Abel's gift was received better than his. For all of my non Bible scholars, I'll give you a quick rundown. Two brothers.Two sacrifices to the Lord. One brother brings fruits of the Earth. The other brother brings lambs of his flock (plus their fat). The Lord likes the fruits.  The brother who brought the lambs was all "What about my amazing gift?" Jealousy and murder ensue. 

For anyone who didn't enjoy my extremely abbreviated version, please visit Genesis 4:1-17.

Cain allowed what he felt he deserved ( and didn't get), lead him on a path of destruction and unrighteousness. Many of us do this in our daily lives at work (when we don't get a promotion), at home (when the kids don't say thank you), and even at church (when others are too slow to lay out the red carpet). I read through the story of Cain and Abel just as my ego began to deflate what I felt was unfair treatment. I wanted an apology! I wanted to be treaten better! I wanted!.....

I wanted. 
I wanted.
I WANTED. 

At that moment, I had to stop myself DEAD in my tracks, beg for forgiveness and look at exactly what I was doing wrong. God states in his word that “A man can receive nothing unless it is given to him from Heaven” (John 3:27 MKJV), So it was important in that moment for me to understand that my 1. I didn't DESERVE anything at that moment and 2. The real prize doesn't come form someone's pat on the back. And my being offended at what was done to me (or what I thought was wrongdoing), was only going to prevent me form continuing to do his works that I had been placed to do. So who would have been the real loser? Me,that's who.

Expectations about what we deserve from others or how we should be treated are sure fire ways to move on the "not so good foot" within the kingdom of God. When we have a moment of "But I'm great", its important to remember whose we are. Its even more important to take a second and think, "Why am I offended anyway?" I promise you 9 times out of 10, your answer won't be enough to leave you upset for long. So pick yourself up, grab a slice of humble pie, and thank the Lord for another great day for the righteous. 


His will be done. ;)

Reference scriptures

Proverbs 19:11
Matthew 18:15-17
Luke 6:22-23

Faithfully, 
Brieana

1.24.2016

24 January

OOTD: Tribal Prints

Good evening everyone! I just want to start this post off by saying I'm happier than a clam at this beautiful and breathtaking backdrop. I know most of us don't like the work of shoveling, slipping, and falling due to the snow, but I truly enjoyed the lazy Saturday I had watching it fall and then (dare I say) going out and "playing in it" later that evening. Of course, by playing in it, I mean shoveling all 16 inches, but those are the breaks when you're an adult. I enjoyed snowstorm Jonas, and as someone said to me today, "If its January 24th and this is our 1st snowstorm, we have a lot to be happy about." Truer words have never been spoken.


I own few tribal prints in my wardrobe, and one of the reasons for that is mainly because I always though they were too busy and I wasn't sure how to tone them down. I then learned that they didn't need to be toned down and that I should allow them to be its natural self. And breathtakingly so. I scored this wrap from Forever 21 Plus a while back. It has a fringe effect on the sleeves and its a very nice cotton blend. The wrap feature allows me to either wear it open or closed. Naturally, for this shoot, I chose closed. I love you guys, but tomorrow is my first day at my new job, I can't afford another cold!

These high waist pants are from an IG boutique that's no longer in business. I'm happy I was able to get them before they shut down. The marled black mixed in with the burgundy red creates a nice two toned look. This pants are awesome because they not only have a nice high waist, the only zipper on them is in the back, which gives an even more slimmed down and neat look.

The necklace is from one of my favorite jewelry small business, Lindo Jewelry. They also came with a matching pair of earrings,but my new 'do made them tough to see.

Did you step out fashionably during snowstorm Jonas? I'd love to see it! Comment below,

Faithfully,
Brieana

1.13.2016

13 January

Rest Assured

Story time!

The other day I was having a conversation with my boyfriend, and he said a very profound thing to me. He said, as human beings we tend to worry about things and that's where we normally lack in our lives. One of the most popular things we tend to worry about are our finances. And I can say this for myself that money is one of the things I think about all the time. Am I going to be able to afford this? How much will that cost? And the most pressing question: Will I have enough? He continued on with saying that we need to operate in rest over things that we would normally fret over.


I didn't know then that this discussion would ring true for me in just a few short days. I'm a Supports Coordinator at the county mental health office in East Stroudsburg. I had gotten this job just 7 short months ago after a hiatus of not working full time. It was a long time coming, and I was so thankful and grateful to have one. On Monday though, exactly one month from my 25th birthday, I got fired.

YUP, you read it right. Fired. Me. In my 25 years of living, I had never so much as gotten suspended from school or a note sent home. And on Monday, I sat looking unemployment in the face.While I could get into that story, I'll save it for another time. And as I left my now, former place of employment, I did one thing; I adopted a state of rest.

I know what you're thinking: BUT WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO NOW?! And for a split second, I thought those same things. Where will I go next? Is this termination going to impact my ability to get another job? WHAT ABOUT THE MONEYYYYYYY?!

Fast forward 10 hours later, I had calmed down (even more than I already was, again Praise God) some more.  I placed a phone call to an outpatient clinic that I previously interned for when I was still  getting my Master's degree. I had built quite a rapport with the director and one of the secretaries there. During my conversation with her, she told me "You're always welcome here. He's available today if you want to come in and chat."

At this point, I still wasn't expecting anything, and I wasn't worried.On the drive there, the song "I Won't Go Back" by William McDowell was laid upon my heart. As I drove and listened to the song, the words "there's nothing to go back to." resonated with me. And I thought to myself, that while I would love to go back to my old job and explain that there must have been some kind of mistake, it wasn't worth it. The sense of calm that came over me as I left that place was one clue to that.

So I arrived at the clinic, with nothing in hand, again ready to tell the story of my departure from my old gig. After about 20 minutes of casual conversation and catching up, I was handed a job application. And coupled with this stack of paper were two simple questions.
1. How many hours a week are you going to work for us?
2. How soon can you get this back so that we can get you started?

It took me almost a full two hours later to process the roller coaster of the day before and this moment. Fired and then re-hired that quickly.So I essentially had one door slammed in my face, to be met with another door wide open and waiting. All of these life changes were possible because I never left the presence of the Lord. The peace that I felt during the most trying hours of Monday into the more triumphant hours of Tuesday was not my doing. For me, the type-A individual who likes to plan out breakfast to what pajamas I'm going to wear to bed, could never stay that calm. But in his presence, I was at rest. And what blessings awaited me! I say all of this to say that it's very easy to praise and adore the Lord when it's easy. It's easy to do when you're on top of the world. But what about when it doesn't seem so great? Will you stand firm?

Exodus 33: 14- And He said, "My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest."
Proverbs 3:5-7- Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all you ways acknowledge Him, and he shall direct your paths.



Stay encouraged,
Brieana. 


1.06.2016

06 January

#WCW: The Importance of Sisterhood in Christ




On this wonderful WCW (also affectionately known as Woman Crush Wednesday in social media land),I want to reflect on the relationships I was able to build (and leave behind in 2015. When you're new to a place,or rather unfamiliar, it's difficult for our flesh to look away from past experiences in hopes of a better today. It's easy to look in the mirror and lament over the scars and cuts we've received from trusting someone too freely or giving information too willingly. Sometimes,we make the mistakes of forming relationships that aren't in line with our journeys. It's important though to remember the rhyme,reason,and season of some of those relationships and allow ourselves to be open to increase. This past Sunday,I was invited to be apart of my sister in Christ's birthday celebration. Through my time of praise and servitude at Faith International Church  I have been fortunate to meet some amazing 
THE BIRTHDAY GIRL!


and fierce women of God. The importance of sisterhood was something I didn't think much of up until some years ago. The word sisterhood almost literally means covered in love by the family of God. I was almost sad that I hadn't realized the importance of this sooner. Women are not typically synonymous with sisterhood am I right? More so relative to the words "catty" or "gossip". I brought those worldly notions into church with me and thus welcomed some uncomfortable thoughts and feelings bred by notions of what someone else said i should be as a woman. The idea that a Christian woman must fit the mold of a perfect Bible toting, 10 inch skirt wearing being has for generations drawn our sisters out of church for not being able to live up to the unspoken expectations

Women,by nature are the breeders. We breed children. We can breed positivity and alternatively negativity.  Once we as women are able to accept the vessels of growth that we are, the sisterhood we are intrinsically built to form will follow. Here's 5 ways that I've become a better sister this year. 

1. Be Generous (2 Corinthians 9:11)
2. Be quick to hear (James 1:19)
3. Seek forgiveness (Colossians 3:13)
4. Tell the truth (Ephesians 4:25)
5. Pray for them. (James 5:16)

Are you a good sister in Christ? If the answer is no,think about how you can be better. It's never too late to be a blessing to others. Your sister is waiting.

Faithfully,
Brieana. 

12.23.2015

23 December

Don't Settle for Knockoffs

       Think about something you REALLY want. Something that you normally see on a window shopping excursion( I know I'm not alone). It could be the newest Vera Wang,or even the latest pair of Jordans (A blessed afternoon to my male readers! *says a quick prayer for increase*) For me it's this trench jacket from Kierra Sheard's new line eleven60. 


If you're like me,most likely it's something you normally only dream of having. You've walked past the store several times and the price remains the same ridiculously high price as it was months before. Now,you've decided that you're going to get that item if it's the last thing you do. You picked up a part time job specifically to dedicate your paychecks to the item of your dreams. You work day in and day out until finally you're 90% of the way there. You can smell the new and unused amazingness right beneath your nose. But then...you happen to be online window shopping one day,and you find said item on Aliexpress for 70% of the 90% you have. So you get to have what you've wanted AND you'll have some coins leftover! What a steal! 
Except...you know this store to sell some pretty convincing name brand items only for them to wind up being not so authentic. You knew this as you pressed "Place My order",but you did it anyway. And as you unwrap your new purse,or pair of shoes,you're not feeling so satisfied anymore. So you went all that way and essentially you cheated yourself for a less than mediocre version of the same. When you could have worked an extra day or two and that shiny new object could have been yours. 

Depressing right? 

So I have a question. If you wouldn't settle for a less than authentic Coach bag,or a knock off pair of Loubs....why then do we settle for a less  than authentic relationship with God? 

Joshua 24:16-18 Then the people answered, “Far be it from us to forsake the Lord to serve other gods! It was the Lord our God himself who brought us and our parents up out of Egypt, from that land of slavery, and performed those great signs before our eyes. He protected us on our entire journey and among all the nations through which we traveled. And the Lord drove out before us all the nations, including the Amorites, who lived in the land. We too will serve the Lord, because he is our God.” 

      I'm not here to speak of other religions,or even my own. I speak only of the consistent nature in which we do other things during our day or even in our lifetime. We can get up and go to work. We can remember to watch our favorite shows. We can remember to get our nails and eyebrows done. Religiously. But when it comes to saying a simple prayer in the morning or attending a Sunday service,we save these special activities only for a week or two out of the month. My biggest problem with that is,we (myself included) work so very hard and diligently in forming a relationship with others before our God. Our boyfriends or girlfriends,or the friends who don't step foot into a church except for Easter and New Year's Eve. Are you satisfied with that? No? So why settle? 

       I want to give you a homework assignment. For the rest of this week,I want you to do more than you have in solidifying your relationship with God. Haven't been to church in a month? Go this Sunday. Did you pray this morning when you woke up? Say a prayer tonight. Were your words the reason behinds someone's tears? Ask forgiveness. Whatever you were today,aim to be better tomorrow. Just as you wouldn't settle for anything less than the best appearance, don't settle for a half relationship with the Lord. He's waiting. 

Leave a comment,quip,or anecdote  below at the end of this week about that experience. How did you feel? What did you take from it? I can't wait to hear from you. 


Stay encouraged,
Brieana. 

12.16.2015

16 December

Be Anxious for Nothing





    


 



I was talking to one of my best friends the other day. I'm so proud of her. She just graduated from a Medical assistant program. She moved out of her family's house into her own apartment. She has a full time, good paying job. Still, despite all of those accomplishments and blessings,my best friend was sitting before me talking about going to the military
  

      Now...before I continue let me prefix this by saying I have no problems with the military. I believe it truly grooms and yields some courageous and wonderful men and  who I cannot thank enough for their service. That being said, I know a few of those individuals who were ready for a commitment like that out of the womb, or as a continued tradition in family lineage. None of the above was the case for my friend. When I asked why...it was the story I had heard many times before. "I feel like I should be doing more." So at that moment..I had to say a quick prayer to speak the right words. And what was laid upon my heart was "Let God do his thing." 

Jeremiah 29:11-13 states,
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 

      Growing into adulthood, this scripture has really been one of solace for me. Because at the age of 25,I look around and find that a lot of people my age come to a place of uncertainty when "WE" feel within ourselves we haven't got it all together just yet. When "WE" feel like we should be driving around in a BMW instead of a 2005 Toyota. When "WE" feel that we should be owner of Fortune 500 company...right this second. But in that,we often forget who has allowed us this far. I attest ALL of my success to the grave and mercies of my Lord and savior. And while it's easy for me to look at what may have gone wrong,I have prayed for the discernment to instead look at what have gone right. A bachelor's degree. A master's degree. My own vehicle. My eyes,my ears,my hands,and my feet.  Are you with me? 

       Sometimes our flesh leads us to be anxious about the future. Anxious about how great we will be. How fast we will be great? I say to that...slow down. Take the time to allow God to mold you into receiving the success that you will inevitably be. Read,meditate,and continuously pray that what he has for you will be so great it'll even exceed your own expectations. Life comes with its uncertainties. But what we can be certain of is that the everlasting and one true God is for sure. And for us. Stay encouraged. 

Faithfully,
Brieana

12.11.2015

11 December

Stepping Out

*deep breath* 

Have you ever...wanted to try something new? And before you even take that first step you imagine all of the worst case scenarios within that something new that can and will go wrong? 

What will they think?
What do I write?
What if I get writer's block?
What if?..What if...What if...

*cue inspirational music* Here I go..

In a couple of sentences...I am what you would call a former ratchet, hailing from Paterson, New Jersey who takes a special interest in learning, leading, and shopping. My thighs take up half my body.I have 2 degrees and am currently working on my License in Social Work. I love the Lord. Sarcasm is my 2nd tongue. With all of that said, what do I do with that package of fantastic?! Answer: SOMETHING. 

I made a vision board at the end of 2014. On that board I had all of these fantastic pictures of apartments, degrees from various universities, and California (I'm a Valley girl at heart). Missing from that board? Starting a blog! It wasn't apart of the plan. But that's what's so wonderful about life. Sometimes your plans are not God's plans. So here I am, at the end of the year, humbly writing to the masses, praying that you find my package of fantastic as great as I think it is. 

My prayer for this blog is to keep and increase the faith. In myself. In my choices. In sisterhood. In women. In my style. And in you. By no means am I a fashionista. Or the next prophetess come down to teach my sisters in Christ how to slay and pray. What I am is someone who is stepping out. With the confidence of 1,000 moons to present the package that is me. Withholding nothing. Except those "what if's".


Faithfully,
Brieana